Evidence-based insights into mental health, psychological therapy and emotional wellbeing.
Explore articles covering the difficulties I work with, the therapies I offer and ideas that can help you better understand your experiences.
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Who Would You Be Without the Rules?
Understanding the Hidden Rules That Shape Our Lives Trauma-informed therapy for complex PTSD, OCD and eating difficulties The Rules We Never Chose Most of…
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Why It Can Feel Hard to Be Yourself Around Other People: Masking, Adaptation, and the Fear of Being “Too Much”
When Being Around Other People Starts to Feel Like Performance Many people move through relationships with a quiet but persistent sense that they are…
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Why Communication Can Feel Difficult: Understanding Rupture, Repair, and What Gets Activated in Relationships
When Something Shifts, and You’re Not Sure What to Do Next Most people have experienced a moment in a relationship where something shifts, even…
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Why It Can Feel Hard to Express Your Needs: Understanding Relational Safety
Trauma-informed therapy for complex PTSD, OCD and eating difficulties. When Saying What You Need Feels More Complicated Than It “Should” Many people reach a…
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Why Do I Keep Ending Up in the Same Patterns? Understanding Your Relationship Dynamics
When Patterns Start to Feel Familiar At some point, many people begin to notice a pattern in their relationships. It might not be immediately…
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Why Change Doesn’t Happen All at Once: Moving Forward Without Pressure
When Insight Doesn’t Feel Like Progress By the time many people reach this stage in their healing, something has already begun to shift. There…
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When You Don’t Trust Yourself: Relearning Your Internal Signals
Many people arrive in therapy with a quiet but persistent uncertainty: “What if I can’t trust myself?” It doesn’t always sound like that at…
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When Anger Feels Unsafe: Understanding Protective Emotions
Anger is often treated as an emotion we should learn to control, soften, or avoid. Many people arrive in therapy convinced that anger is…
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Why Setting Boundaries Can Feel So Unsettling (Even When You Know You Need Them)
Many people understand, intellectually, that boundaries are important. They can describe what a healthy boundary is. They support friends in setting them. They know…
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The Grief We Don’t Always Talk About in Healing
When people begin therapy or start making changes in their lives, they often expect relief to come first. They imagine feeling lighter, freer, more…
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When Capacity Feels Hard to Protect (And Why Burnout Isn’t Just About Being Busy)
Burnout rarely arrives all at once. More often, it builds quietly. You keep going, showing up, helping, coping. You tell yourself things will calm…
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Why Relationships Can Feel Hard (Even When You Want Connection)
Many people I work with describe feeling caught in a confusing push and pull when it comes to relationships. Part of them longs for…
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Why Shame Feels So Loud (And What It’s Trying to Do)
Shame has a way of shaping how you see yourself long before you realise it’s there. For some people it arrives as a sharp…
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Learning to Live With Uncertainty (When Safety Hasn’t Always Been There)
Uncertainty is often framed as something we should simply “learn to tolerate.”But for many people, uncertainty doesn’t just feel uncomfortable, it feels threatening. If…
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Listening to Your Body: Regulation, Eating, and the Nervous System
For many people, “listening to your body” is presented as a simple solution, as though attention alone should be enough to resolve distress around…
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Why Control Can Feel Like Safety (And What Helps Instead)
For many people, control doesn’t begin as a problem.It begins as a way to cope. When life feels unpredictable, overwhelming, or unsafe, the nervous…
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Capacity, Pressure and the Nervous System
Why “doing more” isn’t always healing in complex trauma January often arrives carrying an unspoken expectation: now is the time to push forward. New…
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Reflecting on the Year Without Self-Criticism
A Schema Therapy & Compassion-Focused Approach As the year draws to a close, many people feel an unspoken pressure to reflect. We’re encouraged to…